My Journey
Born in The Netherlands, I grew up as a highly empathic, intuitive, and sensitive girl.
In my childhood, I felt like I didn’t quite fit in. I couldn’t really find my place in the world. Too sensitive, too vulnerable, too dreamy… I often felt like I was living in a different frequency than the world around me.
I wasn’t taught how to express love and affection safely. I didn’t learn how to tune into what I needed, or how to express it. Big emotions overwhelmed me, and I didn’t know how to regulate them. I learned to adapt, to overanticipate, to hide.
Only later in life did I begin to understand myself more deeply. Especially after the birth of my daughter, with the intense hormonal shifts and the initiation of (single) motherhood, I began to recognise symptoms of ADHD, neurodivergence, depression and burn-out. Likely shaped by a history of trauma and chronic stress. Regulation became more difficult, and it began to affect my relationships and daily life in painful ways.
I found yoga in 2012, which helped me clear my panic attacks, most of my anxiety and depression. Soon after I started meditation.
The ending of a very long relationship opened the door to self-discovery and the world of self-development, mindfulness, and natural healing.
After 6 years in England/London, I let go of everything that wasn’t working for me anymore and I went on a nearly three-year solo journey around the world.
When I first entered the world of Tantra and transformational work, I didn’t know how to stay safe. I wasn’t taught how to recognise healthy or unhealthy behavior in facilitators, or in people who were romantically interested in me.
I didn’t know how to speak up. I crossed my own boundaries often. I could feel things were off, but I didn’t have the language or tools to name it.
There was a lot of fear around being misunderstood, being too much, not enough, rejected and abandoned.
Then I discovered consent work. Especially the Wheel of Consent, developed by Betty Martin. It didn’t land right away, but over time, through practice, it began to shift something deep inside.
I began to realise just how often I’d abandoned myself. How I’d overridden my own signals. How I didn’t feel safe to have needs, or to express desire.
That was the beginning of a new chapter. Learning to feel my boundaries. To speak them. To honour my desires. To ask for what I want without guilt.
That changed everything. My relationships became more nourishing. I felt more empowered, less like a victim of my circumstances. Life began to feel more meaningful.
Consent work continues to be one of the most transformative tools I know for communication, embodiment, pleasure, and personal power.
I began facilitating workshops in 2018, and now support others on this journey of coming home to themselves. Especially those who, like me, weren’t given a map.
People who are reconnecting with themselves, their softness, and their intuition. Who long for authentic connection, but don’t always know how to access it. Sensitive souls who crave depth, but don’t want to perform or pretend.
My work developed from lived experience. Motherhood, relationships, heartbreak, self discovery and self healing. Becoming the woman I deep down always knew was inside of me.
I don’t offer quick fixes. I offer space, tools, presence and sustainable transformation.
You are not broken.
You were just never taught how to feel safe in your fullness,
and it’s not too late to learn.
My Mission
To co-create a world where sensitivity is seen as strength, not something to fix or hide.
To empower neurodiverse and sensitive people to live in tune with their body and inner truth, not society’s expectations.
To normalize consent, embodiment and nervous system regulation, as essential life skills, not luxury practices.
To name what’s missing in our education: how to feel, how to listen to our “no”, how to honour the cycles, in our body and in life.
To awaken the fullness of our sensory and emotional experience.
To support people in reclaiming pleasure, presence, and their own inner authority.
And to raise a daughter who feels free to be her whole self, rooted in a deeper knowing than the world ever gave me.
Where to find me?
I split my time between Bali and the Netherlands, and I occasionally travel to other countries, including Australia.
Because of this rhythm, my availability can shift throughout the year – sometimes I work on location, sometimes online or both.
If you’d like to work with me, simply send me a message and we will look at the possibilities.
Courses, Trainings & Credentials
- Shadow workshops - Samyama healing centre Bali
- Familiar Isn’t Safe: Breaking the Attraction Pattern
- What get's in the way of healthy relationships
- The Responsibility Trap
- Receiving Pleasure
- When Freedom Burns Connection
- Choosing Desire Without Guilt
- Why Wanting Feels Dangerous
- Receiving Your Own Truth -Allowing Inner Guidance to Lead - Build your Dance training retreat by Anderson & Brenda in Bali
- Zouk Mira Embodiment Retreat & Training in Bali
- Zoukdreams Castle of Miracles 2025 (NL) - organising team + workshops facilitator
- 3 Day Official Wheel of Consent ® Training - Roger van Doggenaar, certified trainer
- Yoga Nidra Facilitator Certificate - SanaYou YOGAcademy
- Boundaried - online course by Damien Bowler
- Inner Worth - online course by Damien Bowler
- Non-Violent Communication workshop
- Zoukdreams Castle of Miracles 2025 (NL) - organising team
- Tantric Awakening Festival Amsterdam - workshop facilitator
- 3 day Official Wheel of Consent ® Training - Roger van Doggenaar, certified trainer
- 3 day Official Wheel of Consent ® Training - Sonja Ava Eiger, certified trainer
- Voluit Vrouw-Zijn Year Training - Sensual embodied leadership for women - Janneke Robers
Zoukdreams Monastery retreats with Brenda & Anderson - organising team
- ACT your nature training
- Ode aan de Yoni Winterfestival (workshop facilitator)
- Non Violent Communication workshop
- Embodied Co-Loving Community Amsterdam: Spaceholder and consent facilitator
- Zoukdreams Castle of Miracles 2025 (NL) - organising team + workshops facilitator
- Voluit Vrouw-Zijn Year Training - Sensual embodied leadership for women - Janneke Robers
- Guard Your Boundaries course - School of Life
- Zoukdreams Monastery retreats with Brenda & Anderson - organising team & consent facilitator
- Ode aan de Yoni Zomerfestival
- Minimalistisch Ondernemen - Soulworx
- Embodied Co-Loving Community Amsterdam: Spaceholder and consent facilitator
- Temple of Alchemy Amsterdam: Spaceholder
- 4 months Relationship Coaching Trajectory - Anouk Bongers
- Jouw Yoni Journey, 3 months - Chris van der Weide
- Authentic Tantra - Orgasm intensive for women, online course
- Ecstatic Week InnEssence: Co-organiser & facilitator
- Spoedcursus Spaceholden - Motherhood rising
- Gave birth to Ayla!
- Lived in InnEssence community for 6 months in The Netherlands
- Women's Circle Facilitator Training - School of Shakti - Amsterdam
- Tantra Into Zouk - assistant & spaceholder - Amsterdam, Level 1, 2, 3
- Eigentijdse Jongeren Spring Gathering - workshop facilitator
- Awakening & Healing program - Samma Karuna - Koh Pangan
Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Training L1, International School of Temple Arts (ISTA)
- Taste of Love Tantra Festival (Australia) - Designer
Awakening & Healing program - Samma Karuna - Koh Pangan
Abdominal Chi Massage Course - Blue Garden - Chiang Mai
Tantric & Rebirthing Breathwork Journey - Edward & Prema - Berlin
Tantra Into Zouk L1 - Amsterdam
- Spirit of Intimacy Festival (Australia) - organising team
Rewilding Tantra Training - Koh Pangan
Awakening & Healing program - Samma Karuna - Koh Pangan
- Landmark Forum course assistant - London
- Landmark Forum Integrity seminars - London
Landmark Forum foundation course - London
